Ovaries Over Bro-varies
/Aside from our immediate family, the most valuable relationships in young adults' lives is their relationship with their best friends, or any female friend in general. This "unspoken" girl code is the holy grail of do's and don'ts when it comes to female friendship. Girl code is the unwritten set of rules that exist between a girl and her best friends. Simply stated, girl code is the commandments that outline the DO’s and DON'TS of a good friendship.
50 Rules Of Girl Code We All Need To Start Following Right This Second
1. Always check in with your friends when they are on a date with a new guy. You never know if they need to be saved.
2. Rescue any girl you see being hit on by a creep.
3. Wait till your friend is inside her house before you drive away.
4. Never allow your friend to walk home alone, especially when she’s drunk.
5. Allow your friends to just vent. Don’t say anything back. Just listen.
6. Tell a girl if you see something malfunctioning on her outfit.
7. Never go after your friend’s crush.
8. Never go after a friend’s ex without permission.
9. Let a girl know when her boyfriend is cheating.
10. Always tell a girl when her boobs are out.
11. Don’t even consider flirting with your friend’s boyfriend.
12. Siblings are off limits until you ask.
13. Same goes for their close friend. Ask before you pursue.
14. Give out hair bands freely.
15. Same with tampons.
16. Never ditch a girl post-breakup.
17. Be nice instead of degrading.
18. Don’t slut-shame your friends.
19. Don’t talk about your friends to outsiders.
20. Don’t live in a room without some form of protection.
21. Being alone is OK.
22. You can wear heels no matter your height.
23. Never let a girl dance alone.
24. Don’t have sex with an ex if you still have feelings.
25. You are allowed to have sex on a first date.
26. You are the CEO of your own body.
27. Never make a girl apologize for her feelings.
28. Never fight over a boy.
29. Don’t tell each other’s secrets to outsiders.
30. Never leave your girls for your man.
31. If a girl looks better than you, don’t hate her—appreciate her.
32. Don’t be that girl with all the problems and no solutions.
33. Give compliments like free candy.
34. You don’t always have to be classy.
35. You don’t walk out on your friends.
36. Brunch after a crazy night is necessary.
37. Never let a girl go to the bathroom alone.
38. Don’t let your drunk friend go home with that ugly guy she’s going to regret.
39. Be that wing-woman you always wanted for yourself.
40. Never hate a woman you haven’t met.
41. Never invite your friend’s enemy to a party.
42. No guy wants a girl that flirts with everyone and their mother.
43. If your friend is happy, be happy for her.
44. It’s OK to say no.
45. Be available for that Chinese/ice cream post-breakup date.
46. Never take your girlfriends for granted.
47. Stop bottling all those feelings up; let ’em out.
48. Jump on that health kick with your friends.
49. Help form that text back to your friend’s new crush when she’s struggling.
50. Screen shot all interactions with boys and send them in your group chat with your friends. Sometimes a second opinion is needed.
Breaking The Girl Code
When girl code is broken, however, tension can rise faster than you could ever imagine. Girl code can really stab a gaping hole in a friendship. And depending on the circumstance — sometimes that hole is unable to be sewn back together.
It is SO important to make sure you encircle yourself with friends who value the same girl codes you do!
All friend circles have different guidelines and boundaries you can and cannot cross. Make sure you respect that. You need your friends just as much as they need you. Even when you can’t stand yourself, your girlfriends will. Remember that and show them some love every once in a while — you’ll never regret spreading a smile. Whether you are best friends or just met, girl codes are put in place to help girls support one another as women and maintain happy and healthy friendships with those whom you really care about.
Key Wisdom Points from MTV’s “Girl Code”:
On beauty standards:
“You’ll never look like the girl in the magazine” - Jessimae Peluso
On dealing with exes:
“Don’t fuck if you still have feelings” - Nicole Byer
On ladies carrying condoms:
Always have a condom. - Tanisha T. Long
On navigating life:
If it doesn’t involve food, it doesn’t involve me.. - Quinn Marcus
On the importance of crushes:
I think crushes are great, you know they make the world go ‘round, because otherwise you know Taylor Swift would like not have a career… - Alice Wetterlund
On supposed "dating etiquette" for women:
You can have sex on a first date with a guy. - Carly Aquilino
On harassment:
On asking for what you want:
You are the CEO of your body and your crotch, so put his head and his hand wherever you want ‘em. - Jessimae Peluso
On penises:
Penises are so disgusting, but we still love them. It’s exactly what a man is to us. - Carly Aquilino